How to Pick Up Women

by Dean Cortez, Mack Tactics

Imagine an environment where you’re surrounded by stunning, highly sexual, practically naked women. The booze is flowing, the music is pumping, and every one of them wants to talk to YOU.

Welcome to the strip club. Most guys who set foot inside these flesh palaces are content to be customers, forking over their cash for lap dances and pointless conversations with women who view them as human ATM machines.

True players, however, view strip clubs are target-rich environments filled with sexy, available women. They’re also a great place to hone your skills and become comfortable macking on 9’s and 10’s in other settings.

Are the girls here looking to get your money? Of course they are. It’s their job. But you can learn how to bust them out of their “sales routine” and get them focused on you as a romantic/sexual possibility.

It’s all about flipping the script, making them STOP perceiving you as a customer, and making them play YOUR game — instead of playing theirs. Put the right Tactics to work, and you can build connections, collect phone numbers, and set up dates just as you would at a bar.

I have a complete book on Strip Club Seduction available at Mack Tactics (it’s actually a free bonus product when you purchase my best-selling program), but for right now, here are my top ten tips for strip club success:

1. Go in with a Mack mindset: you’re way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to this place. Strippers spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame-ass men who want someone to listen to them complain about their wives, their jobs, etc. Once you’ve demonstrated you are a fun, original, confident guy — who GENERATES cool conversation instead of just sitting there and answering her questions –she’ll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.

2. When you enter the club, walk around with your head held high, like you own the place. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a seat and settle in, preferably near a speaker. (I’ll explain why in a moment.)

3. When a hot stripper approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you and NEVER act impressed. (“Whoa, I’m not that easy. Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better.”)

Also, don’t agree if she immediately offers a dance — but don’t turn her down, either. (I’ll reply with a playful tease: “Are you sure you can afford me? I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt.”)

Instead, get her to sit down, engage her in conversation, and control the flow. If you’re sitting near a speaker, tell you “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.” This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a “mini date”: you’re taking her somewhere, even if it’s just to the other side of the room.

4. Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. Never comment on how good she looks; if anything, call her “cute.” (”Not only are you one of the cuter girls here, Samantha, but you can actually hold an intelligent conversation.”)

5. Break her out of her routine. Dancers, like car salesmen, have canned routines that they use to make customers feel comfortable and ready to spend money. When she asks you your name, or where you’re from, ignore it. Go into your OWN routine (as we explain in the “Ultimate Edition” Mack Tactics book, which you can find at www.macktactics.com) and control the conversation. The idea is to get her out of “work mode” and into “chat mode.”

I’ve got a bunch of different intros that I use with strippers, but let me give you a quick one to start with. The idea is to pull her into a conversation without buying a dance, AND to get her real name. (You’ve got to get past her “stripper facade” and get her real name. Otherwise you’re not going to build a real connection.)

ME (pulling out a chair for her): “Have a seat, your feet must be hurting from walking around in those heels. You wouldn’t believe what happened to me today, you’ve got to hear this…”

She sits down…

ME: By the way, it’s a pleasure to meet you. (shake her hand) Tell me your name.

HER: Destiny. (Or “Mercedes,” or “Angelina,” or “Cinammon,” or whatever “stripper name” she goes by.)

ME: I dance at the club down the street on Thursday nights. I go by the name “Hercules.” But I’ll tell you what: you can know my real name, if I can know yours. Just don’t tell anyone.

HER: (laughing) It’s Melissa.

ME: I’m Dean. I just hope you’re not a stalker, Melissa, because I have all kinds of freaky women showing up at my club, throwing their panties onstage when I’m up there on the pole. It’s kind of embarrassing, actually…I’m just messing with you. I don’t dance. Not professionally, at least.

That’s a smooth, funny way to open the conversation. I’m accomplishing three powerful things with this intro:

A. I’m showing her that I’m confident and a bit cocky. Obviously I’m at ease sitting down and talking to beautiful women, and I’m not fazed by strippers. They’re just human beings, and I joke around with them just as I would with any woman.

B. I get her to reveal her real name, right off the bat. You’ve got to get this out of the way. There’s no way I’m going to sit with a girl and have a deep conversation while I’m referring to her by some silly “stripper name.” (“That’s really interesting, ‘Delicious.’ So tell me more about your plans to go to law school.”)

C. I’m sending her the message right away that I am NOT a typical chump customer. I’m amused by the concept of “stripper names.” I obviously understand how the “game” works in these clubs, and it’s funny and juvenile to me. So why don’t we just skip that nonsense, and have a real conversation as two intelligent adults?

6. Be respectful of her profession. Never refer to it as “stripping”; the term to use for her is “dancer.” Say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before and demonstrate familiarity with her profession. “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along. I get the sense there’s a lot more to you than meets the eye.”

Or, “I bet you’ve got some funny stories from working here. My ex used to tell me about the weirdo customers she had to deal with…” (Personally, I’ve dated nearly a dozen strippers, so I have a ton of material to work with here…all kinds of weird / pathetic / hilarious stories that I’ve heard about customers.)

7. Befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJs, managers, owner, etc. When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; again, you’re not a typical customer.

Befriending a male staff member is easy. For example, introduce yourself to the DJ or bouncer and say, “Dude, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it. You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”

8. Don’t forget, she’s there to make money. Go on slow nights or afternoons when there aren’t a lot of customers vying for her attention. And you ALWAYS want to be the one to end the interaction. (She should never be the one saying, “Well, nice to meet you, I need to go…”)

Buy her a drink, converse with her for 20 minutes (always controlling the tempo and the topics), and then close the deal: either get her phone number, or make a plan to meet her for drinks after her shift. Then excuse yourself. You’re a busy guy with places to be, and people to see. That’s the image you must always project.

9. During the conversation, apply the same M.A.C.K. Tactics that you would use on women in a bar. Ask her questions that prompt her to reveal quirky things about herself. Use Hypotheticals, i.e., “If you could teleport right now to anywhere in the world, where would you go?” (The Mack Tactics book contains a ton of these.)

Here’s another good one: “I can tell there’s more to you than meets the eye. So tell me something about yourself that the customers in here would never suspect.”

10. It might take a couple of visits for you to “close” the dancer you like (getting her number, or meeting her after her shift). Before your exit, tell her, “I can see there a lot of lonely, desperate-looking guys in here who’d love to pay for your company. I’ve got to go handle some business. We’ll catch up next time, it was awesome to meet you.”

Once you’ve gotten her in your groove, you’ll want to engage her in a deep, compelling conversation, stimulate her attraction triggers, and close the deal. To master the rest of this process, go to www.macktactics.com and pick up the complete system. (Right now, you’ll receive our complete 2008 Strip Club Guide as a free bonus product.)

Dean Cortez is the creator of M.A.C.K. Tactics, a top-rated program for men who want to become attractive and successful with women. Visit www.macktactics.com to claim your free 60-page book on seduction tactics, “The S.W.A.T. Guide” (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics), which is available for a limited time.