How do you pick up women at a coffeehouse or bookstore?
What are the best techniques to use? How is it different than the bar/club? What are some signals to look for to know if she is approachable? Any advice?
I am early 20′s, out of college, some extra baggage, 5’11", dress neat, no glasses (if the detail helps)
Who said anything about "pickup lines"? Just asking how to pick them up, like getting their number, a date, etc.
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Women in a coffee house or bookstore vs. in a bar or club… wow, dude, you’ve got some issues.
Let’s break this down a little:
Bar/club girls = two main reasons for being there 1) to get blitzed or 2) to get blitzed and go home with someone
Coffee house/ readers = intellectual (or trying to be), sometimes uptight, artsy, conservative (possibly a hippy though too, depending on the coffee house).
Signals – well, that’s easy. She’s the one that’s sitting alone and has been for at least 10 or 15 minutes. She’s there without anyone else so why not give it the ole college try right?
Techniques – simple, don’t try a technique. If you find yourself attracted to a girl, go say "hi, I’m [insert name here] and couldn’t help but notice that you were sitting/standing alone. Would you like another coffee/tea?" and move on from there. Easy to transfer to the bookstore example: see the book she’s holding/looking through? If you can’t come up with a topic related to that subject, you’ve already lost her interest. Even if you come up with a line like "Can you tell me more about that book/subject? I’ve been looking to expand what I read but can’t find anything that really interests me?"
Always ask questions, listen and stare directly at those two things on the front of her body – her eyes.
If she was sitting alone, go and ask if you can by her a coffee or tea. If she already got one, try to talk about something in-common, like the quality of tea or coffee, or about the environment of the coffeehouse… Good luck buddy.
Are you serious?!
Do not use the typically pick up lines. MOST women that are at a coffeehouse or bookstore are not drunk and will not take kindly to someone hitting on them, but if you must. I would take note of the section of the store they are in or the book that they are reading and comment on it. Introduce yourself. That’s it.
as a woman, i’ll also have to agree with the "no pick up lines" rule. it is never, and i repeat, NEVER a good idea. try to find conversation topics that can relate to anyone, simple questions and such.
good luck! =)
i think you should have a reason to strike up a conversation. if you see a girl reading an book and you may have heard of it or want to know more, ask her about it. or, if you see that she is reading the newspaper, ask if she minds if you borrow a section. or, heck, ask her for the time. or directions. something, anything!
barned and noble is a popular pick up spot. the self help section, funny enough. i’ve gone there with friends just browsing through funny titles and a guy will jump into my conversation or comment on the book i have in my hand, or something odd. it doesn’t ever result in my giving them my number, but they get my attention for a little bit and i guess it serves as practice.
the best thing you could try to do is start up a conversation with her. girls like guys who make the first move. best of luck!
No matter what you say, (even if it turns out to be studpid
) ), I GUARANTEE that the girl will be flattered that you are talking to her. If she blows you off, then you don’t want to be with that girl anyways right!!! If she answers your questions, then she at least has some kind of interest(either physical or mental.) I would give it a shot, seriously, what can you lose, a girl walking away and not giving you her number…there are much other things worse in life than that. Just be confident, be yourself, and you will find the girl that your looking for. Just be you! Good luck!