By DEAN CORTEZ

http://www.macktactics.com/

Recently, I’ve received a lot of emails from guys who complain about how they screwed it up with a girl, and now they want to figure out how to get her back.

I’m not talking about guys who lost their girlfriend. I’m referring to guys who met a girl, and had some communication going on, but then the girl seemed to “cool off” and lose interest.

The emails usually go something like…

“I met this cute girl, and played it really cool, and got her number…and we were texting each other for three weeks…and then I met her for coffee, but then I couldn’t pin her down for another date, and she told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship right now…and I know I should have handled it differently, but how can I get her interested in me again…”

The bottom line is, women crave a challenge, and are repelled by men who make their interest obvious.

Now, you probably just read that and said “of course, I already know that,” but it’s amazing to me HOW MANY MEN disregard this principle in the heat of the moment.

It’s easy to tell yourself you’re going to be “more challenging” to women, but then you meet a hot chick and it seems like she’s into you, so you throw all the rules and common sense out the window and just want to do it whatever it takes to lock her down as your girlfriend.

Well, you ever notice what happens when you make an “exception” and ignore these rules, and start texting her all the time and trying to see her?

YOU LOSE.

And this is when guys fill up my inbox with their emails, complaining about how they “messed it up” and asking “how do I get her interested in me again?”

I’m not going to bullshit you. Once you’ve shown weakness to a woman, and made it obvious that you would crawl over broken glass to get a date with her, it’s not easy for you to suddenly make her think you’re some super-confident, independent guy.

The way to salvage this situation is to lay off her for awhile. Go out and meet other women. Hit the Internet hard and start flirting with girls and lining up dates. The only time you will obsess over one particular girl is when you don’t have other options in your life.

OK, so fast-forward a few weeks. You still want to get back with girl #1, the one you messed it up with…

Remember this: when a girl seems to be interested in you, but then acts like she’s always too “busy” to see you, she’s testing you. She’s not really that busy. You know this.

What she’s going is testing you. She’s confused about her feelings. On the one hand, she likes you…but on the other hand, she’s worried that you might be like all the other guys who chase after her and wind up annoying her.

More specifically, she is worried that:

A) You’re not really that desirable. You’re not much of a “prize.” If you allow your world to revolve around her, what does that say about your desirability? Obviously, you don’t have other options, which means that women generally are not attracted to you. Women will judge your value based on your desirablity to other women. Trhey don’t need to see you with other women, but they need to feel that you are a prize, and that you have all kinds of other options.

B) You’re just trying to bang her. She worries that if she “gives it up” to you, you’re then going to ditch her and move on to the next girl.

Either way, her solution is to play “hard to get” and see what you’re made of.

So, if you’re going to re-establish contact with her and try to get things back on track, you’ve got to make it EASY for her to say “yes.”

You don’t tell her how you feel about her. You don’t apologize for anything. You contact her and you lay out a firm GAME PLAN that sounds interesting and agreeable.

Forget about text-messaging her. This is weak bullshit. It’s too easy for her to ignore a text message or just hit “delete.”

Call her. She has to hear the enthusiasm and confidence in your tone of your voice. If you leave a message on her voicemail, here is the wrong way, and the right way, to do it:

WACK TACTIC: “Hey, it’s Dean. Um, I know we haven’t talked in a while, I was just wondering how you’ve been…”

MACK TACTIC: “What’s up, it’s Dean. Listen, I was thinking of you the other night, I discovered this new after-work spot for Happy Hour, and it’s exactly your type of vibe. I saw one of your friends there, it was really funny actually. Give me a ring. Talk to you soon.”

(Did you actually see her friend there? No, but it’s an added “hook” to get her to return your phone call. If she questions you on this, just say, “actually, I thought I saw one of your friends so I walked over and said hi, and it turned out to be a girl that looked exactly like her. I swear, your friend has a twin. Anyway, so I’ll be going back there on Friday night, come meet me for a drink because I’ve got some really cool news that I want to tell you about.”

Again, you’re giving her a hook. You want to tell her some “cool news.” What is this news? It doesn’t really matter. When you meet her, if she asks, just make something up.

It could be something that happened at your job, or something exciting that happened to a friend of yours. Whatever. The point is, you’ve gotten her to agree to see you. Now you’ve got to play it very cool and control the flow of the conversation, and stimulate her “attraction switches”—the ones you ignored before, because you were too busy trying to please and impress her.

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by Dean Cortez, Mack Tactics

Imagine an environment where you’re surrounded by stunning, highly sexual, practically naked women. The booze is flowing, the music is pumping, and every one of them wants to talk to YOU.

Welcome to the strip club. Most guys who set foot inside these flesh palaces are content to be customers, forking over their cash for lap dances and pointless conversations with women who view them as human ATM machines.

True players, however, view strip clubs are target-rich environments filled with sexy, available women. They’re also a great place to hone your skills and become comfortable macking on 9’s and 10’s in other settings.

Are the girls here looking to get your money? Of course they are. It’s their job. But you can learn how to bust them out of their “sales routine” and get them focused on you as a romantic/sexual possibility.

It’s all about flipping the script, making them STOP perceiving you as a customer, and making them play YOUR game — instead of playing theirs. Put the right Tactics to work, and you can build connections, collect phone numbers, and set up dates just as you would at a bar.

I have a complete book on Strip Club Seduction available at Mack Tactics (it’s actually a free bonus product when you purchase my best-selling program), but for right now, here are my top ten tips for strip club success:

1. Go in with a Mack mindset: you’re way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to this place. Strippers spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame-ass men who want someone to listen to them complain about their wives, their jobs, etc. Once you’ve demonstrated you are a fun, original, confident guy — who GENERATES cool conversation instead of just sitting there and answering her questions –she’ll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.

2. When you enter the club, walk around with your head held high, like you own the place. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a seat and settle in, preferably near a speaker. (I’ll explain why in a moment.)

3. When a hot stripper approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you and NEVER act impressed. (“Whoa, I’m not that easy. Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better.”)

Also, don’t agree if she immediately offers a dance — but don’t turn her down, either. (I’ll reply with a playful tease: “Are you sure you can afford me? I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt.”)

Instead, get her to sit down, engage her in conversation, and control the flow. If you’re sitting near a speaker, tell you “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.” This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a “mini date”: you’re taking her somewhere, even if it’s just to the other side of the room.

4. Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. Never comment on how good she looks; if anything, call her “cute.” (”Not only are you one of the cuter girls here, Samantha, but you can actually hold an intelligent conversation.”)

5. Break her out of her routine. Dancers, like car salesmen, have canned routines that they use to make customers feel comfortable and ready to spend money. When she asks you your name, or where you’re from, ignore it. Go into your OWN routine (as we explain in the “Ultimate Edition” Mack Tactics book, which you can find at www.macktactics.com) and control the conversation. The idea is to get her out of “work mode” and into “chat mode.”

I’ve got a bunch of different intros that I use with strippers, but let me give you a quick one to start with. The idea is to pull her into a conversation without buying a dance, AND to get her real name. (You’ve got to get past her “stripper facade” and get her real name. Otherwise you’re not going to build a real connection.)

ME (pulling out a chair for her): “Have a seat, your feet must be hurting from walking around in those heels. You wouldn’t believe what happened to me today, you’ve got to hear this…”

She sits down…

ME: By the way, it’s a pleasure to meet you. (shake her hand) Tell me your name.

HER: Destiny. (Or “Mercedes,” or “Angelina,” or “Cinammon,” or whatever “stripper name” she goes by.)

ME: I dance at the club down the street on Thursday nights. I go by the name “Hercules.” But I’ll tell you what: you can know my real name, if I can know yours. Just don’t tell anyone.

HER: (laughing) It’s Melissa.

ME: I’m Dean. I just hope you’re not a stalker, Melissa, because I have all kinds of freaky women showing up at my club, throwing their panties onstage when I’m up there on the pole. It’s kind of embarrassing, actually…I’m just messing with you. I don’t dance. Not professionally, at least.

That’s a smooth, funny way to open the conversation. I’m accomplishing three powerful things with this intro:

A. I’m showing her that I’m confident and a bit cocky. Obviously I’m at ease sitting down and talking to beautiful women, and I’m not fazed by strippers. They’re just human beings, and I joke around with them just as I would with any woman.

B. I get her to reveal her real name, right off the bat. You’ve got to get this out of the way. There’s no way I’m going to sit with a girl and have a deep conversation while I’m referring to her by some silly “stripper name.” (“That’s really interesting, ‘Delicious.’ So tell me more about your plans to go to law school.”)

C. I’m sending her the message right away that I am NOT a typical chump customer. I’m amused by the concept of “stripper names.” I obviously understand how the “game” works in these clubs, and it’s funny and juvenile to me. So why don’t we just skip that nonsense, and have a real conversation as two intelligent adults?

6. Be respectful of her profession. Never refer to it as “stripping”; the term to use for her is “dancer.” Say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before and demonstrate familiarity with her profession. “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along. I get the sense there’s a lot more to you than meets the eye.”

Or, “I bet you’ve got some funny stories from working here. My ex used to tell me about the weirdo customers she had to deal with…” (Personally, I’ve dated nearly a dozen strippers, so I have a ton of material to work with here…all kinds of weird / pathetic / hilarious stories that I’ve heard about customers.)

7. Befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJs, managers, owner, etc. When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; again, you’re not a typical customer.

Befriending a male staff member is easy. For example, introduce yourself to the DJ or bouncer and say, “Dude, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it. You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”

8. Don’t forget, she’s there to make money. Go on slow nights or afternoons when there aren’t a lot of customers vying for her attention. And you ALWAYS want to be the one to end the interaction. (She should never be the one saying, “Well, nice to meet you, I need to go…”)

Buy her a drink, converse with her for 20 minutes (always controlling the tempo and the topics), and then close the deal: either get her phone number, or make a plan to meet her for drinks after her shift. Then excuse yourself. You’re a busy guy with places to be, and people to see. That’s the image you must always project.

9. During the conversation, apply the same M.A.C.K. Tactics that you would use on women in a bar. Ask her questions that prompt her to reveal quirky things about herself. Use Hypotheticals, i.e., “If you could teleport right now to anywhere in the world, where would you go?” (The Mack Tactics book contains a ton of these.)

Here’s another good one: “I can tell there’s more to you than meets the eye. So tell me something about yourself that the customers in here would never suspect.”

10. It might take a couple of visits for you to “close” the dancer you like (getting her number, or meeting her after her shift). Before your exit, tell her, “I can see there a lot of lonely, desperate-looking guys in here who’d love to pay for your company. I’ve got to go handle some business. We’ll catch up next time, it was awesome to meet you.”

Once you’ve gotten her in your groove, you’ll want to engage her in a deep, compelling conversation, stimulate her attraction triggers, and close the deal. To master the rest of this process, go to www.macktactics.com and pick up the complete system. (Right now, you’ll receive our complete 2008 Strip Club Guide as a free bonus product.)

Dean Cortez is the creator of M.A.C.K. Tactics, a top-rated program for men who want to become attractive and successful with women. Visit www.macktactics.com to claim your free 60-page book on seduction tactics, “The S.W.A.T. Guide” (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics), which is available for a limited time.

By Dean Cortez, Mack Tactics

In “Mack Tactics” my best-selling seduction strategy book for men, I stress that originality is the most important quality that you can convey to a woman—from the way you dress, to how you approach the ladies and engage them in conversation.

On the other hand, when you fail to make a unique impression, she’s going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to buy her a drink—and within three minutes of you paying for her $12 cocktail, she’ll be excusing herself to “go find her friend.”

(Don’t you just hate when women say that? As if her friend is lost somewhere in the nightclub, in desperate need of food and water…)

The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself. Then you’ll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her. One of my favorite conversational tactics for accomplishing this is using Cold Reads. This technique, which is used to great effect by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you.

The trick with Cold Reads is that the “observations” you’re making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively. Human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be. Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique. Even though Cold Reads are usually vague generalizations—which would apply to your Aunt Bernice, just as they would to the hottie partying with her friends at the nightclub—we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

So forget about asking the generic “job interview” questions. (”So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) If I’m in a club, talking to some babe who’s acting a bit hard to get, I’ll bust out a Cold Read:

“Y’know, Lisa, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”

Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you would do anything for them.”

Or, “I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances…and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”

If she agrees with one of these “reads”—and honestly, I’ve never had a woman flat-out disagree—I’ll follow up by telling her that I can totally relate, because I’m the same way. This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a quick story—one that illustrates how I’m the same type of person. (If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities.)

A similar tactic is using “Barnum statements,” named after the circus showman P.T. Barnum.

These statements apply to just about anybody, but give the impression that you’re tapping into her inner psyche. My favorite is, “I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You’re on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you.”

Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). Regardless, she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her. She’ll probably volunteer more information—and now you’re engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward pauses, or drag her onto the dance floor.

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said, as if he already knew the answer. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, nod wisely and say, “Yes, that’s right, and you’re really having a hard time with it.” Claim her answer as your own.

Some other Cold Reads that are vague yet “profound”:

“You have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”

“You’ve got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it— but something is holding you back.”

“At times, you’re really social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and introverted.”

Now that you understand the idea behind Cold Reads, you can invent your own. Based on her vibe, the way she’s dressed, and how she acts during the first few minutes of conversation, you should be able to use a “read” that applies to her.

This is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic. To learn the complete arsenal, and how to use them with expert precision in any situation, visit Mack Tactics and get ready to take your game – and lifestyle – to a whole new level.

It’s a question that has tormented average men since the dawn of time, or at least since the invention of tattoos: what is it about “Bad Boys” that women find so damn irresistible?

Why do beautiful girls dismiss the “Nice Guys” who are willing to pledge their hearts to them, and plunge instead into high-drama relationships with arrogant players?

From Frank Sinatra to Johnny Depp, the list of Bad Boy celebrities—and the trail of broken hearts they’ve left in their wake—is endless. Lenny Kravitz romped with Nicole Kidman. Supermodel Kate Moss couldn’t shake her addiction to the low-life junkie rocker Pete Doherty.

Pamela Anderson (who is in desperate need of Bad Boy rehab) recently terminated her marriage to some shady dude whose claim to fame was making and selling a sex tape with Paris Hilton. Before him, she survived tempestuous marriages to Tommy Lee and Kid Rock. (Now she’s reportedly back with Tommy.)

A lot of women will tell you they found Tony Soprano incredibly sexy. Never mind the fact that he was a murderous criminal, and regularly cheated on his wife with strippers at the Bada Bing club; he was an Alpha Male to the core, a straight-ahead, no-apologies, hyper-masculine figure that women find irresistible despite all common sense.

For several years, Kevin “K-Fed” Federline was the reigning Bad Boy of the tabloids. While he’s easy to mock—especially when attempting to rap—K-Fed did manage to bag the most famous babe on the planet at the height of her career. Britney Spears overlooked the fact that he was broke and already had two kids by another woman; she was enthralled by his cocky Bad Boy swagger.

When their relationship inevitably imploded (amid reports of K-Fed’s infidelities), she went batshit crazy. When women break up with their Bad Boy obsessions, they often go into nuclear meltdown mode. The Bad Boy’s psychological grip on women is that powerful.

This phenomenon is on full display in Las Vegas, my home turf. The nightclubs are crawling with slickly dressed Bad Boys, surrounded by fawning women in the VIP booths. At the summertime casino pool parties, you’ll find another type—the white-kid “gangsta” Bad Boys—showing off their tattoo-covered torsos and piercings. They wrap hot chicks around their fingers the way no millionaire lawyer or doctor could ever hope to.

At the strip clubs, the sexiest dancers often date the bottom of the Bad Boy barrel. It’s a safe bet that the “perfect 10” who pulls down $2,000 a night in tips goes home to some gangsta wanna-be who blows her earnings on weed and Xbox games. If not, she’s probably banging the DJ or the bouncer with the neck tattoo and roid-rage issues.

The attraction, if you ask me, is rooted in the female DNA. Women are subconsciously seeking a man who makes them feel secure, who has the ability to protect her and their offspring. It’s the same instinct that drove women into the arms of Bad Boys 10,000 years ago, when survival actually did depend on hooking up with a guy who could defend his nest (or his cave).

In this day and age, one doesn’t need the physical strength to slay dinosaurs or fend off barbarian hordes. Bad Boys don’t need to have money, either. It’s their emotional strength that women are drawn towards. They play by their own rules and have unstoppable self-confidence, which means they’ve possess survival tools that the sensitive “metrosexuals” lack.

Another element of the attraction is that women want what they can’t have. I explain in my books how women are hard-wired to push a man’s buttons and test him, in order to determine whether he’s an Alpha Male or a Nice Guy pushover. This is part of the female “screening process,” as they determine which men are suitable for them to nest and mate with—and which guys lack the qualities that she’ll need in order to feel secure, both physically and emotionally.

Meanwhile, Nice Guys bend over backwards to avoid drama; Bad Boys give women all the drama they can handle. For women, the emotional rollercoaster of dating a Bad Boy—who’s always got other hotties on speed-dial, and is constantly challenging her to hold his interest—becomes addicting. (As Commandment #1 of the Ten Mack Commandments states, “Flee and they will follow; follow and they will flee.”)

If being an eager-to-please wuss has held you back in your dating life, it’s time for you to start incorporating a Bad Boy “edge” into your attitude. First, stop making yourself constantly available to women. Ideally, you should live a full enough life—and have enough women in your orbit—that you really aren’t free any night of the week that a woman wants to see you. But until you reach that level, you can send the message that you live a rich, busy Alpha Male lifestyle by simply taking a different tact when women want to make plans with you.

Let’s say you exchanged phone numbers with a hottie the other day. She calls you up and says, “Me and my friends are going out tonight to the bar, do you want to come meet up?”

WACK RESPONSE: “Definitely! I can be there in an hour.”

MACK RESPONSE: “Well, I have some appointments tonight…but if I can get freed up a bit later, I’ll try to stop by and make an appearance.”

There’s a major difference in how a woman will perceive these two types of responses: you’re either the typical, eager-to-please dude with nothing else going on his life, or you’re the Mack who fits women into his schedule, and only sees women at his convenience.

(What are your “other appointments?” You keep this vague on purpose. Women will usually assume you’re spending time with other women, and this is a GOOD thing…women are

Next, it’s critical that you are a decision maker instead of always putting the ball in her court. I’ll tell you a secret about women: they hate to make decisions. This has to do with how they’re wired. Men are wired to operate according to logic, and to solve problems so that they avoid uneccessary bullshit and drama; women are ruled by their emotions, which are constantly shifting and can erupt into drama for no apparent reason. (Women subconsciously seek to create drama, especially when they’re in relationships, as it serves to make their partner reassure them and confirm that he’s there to support her.)

A woman can experience turbulent emotions over something as simple as making plans for next Saturday night, or figuring out which dress to buy. As a man, you’ve got to be the emotional rock who makes the decisions and puts her emotions in check.

By always making the necessary decisions and laying out the gameplan, she will be compelled to follow your lead. This, in turn, makes her feel secure with you.

Let’s look at another example. You call a girl to plan a date…

WACK APPROACH: “So I was thinking, maybe if you’re free sometime, we could do something…”

MACK APPROACH: “You said you don’t work on Friday night, and there’s this awesome new café with great music that I want to show you. I’m going there Friday around nine o’clock, I can pick you up and we can go together.”

Most importantly, stop broadcasting your interest. Never make it obvious that you’re into a girl; the Bad Boy always keeps women guessing. This means no more complimenting women on their beauty, confessing your attraction, or being available anytime she wants to see you or chat on the phone. Maintain an element of mystery and never act easily impressed.

This attitude is manifested in the way you converse with women: the conversational tactics I teach include playfully teasing women and throwing out little “challenges” to see if she meets your high standards, rather than taking the typical approach—which is to talk about yourself and try to impress her.

There’s a scene in The Empire Strikes Back that says it all. Han Solo (played by Harrison Ford) is about to be dragged off to the deep-freeze chamber. Princess Leia only has a couple of seconds to say goodbye. The sexual tension and attraction has been building up between them. They share a passionate kiss, and she blurts out, “I love you.”

Han looks at her coolly and says, “I know.”

That’s a classic Bad Boy reply. It comes down to being the prize instead of the pursuer. Adopt this attitude and you won’t need to spend painful hours in a tattoo chair, play bass in a punk rock band, or join the Mafia (or a mixed martial arts league) to drive women wild.

Dean Cortez is the founder of M.A.C.K. Tactics, a popular series of books and DVDs for men who want to elevate their dating game to the ultimate level. Visit Mack Tactics to download a free 80-page book, “The S.W.A.T. Guide” (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics).

Dave,

WOW !!!! Thats all I can say. I’ve been getting your emails for several months and have since downloaded your book. I’ve committed myself to improving my “skills” with women and the results have been amazing. The “Crash and Burn” that most guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile even if she isn’t interested.

My latest success was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman (an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f to get her number and set up a date. Went out on the date and it was almost like it was scripted. Pushed the cocky funny to the extreme all night, teased her, drove her completely crazy and left her house at 5:00 am the next morning.

Here’s the thing, using this material you will very often hear, “Oh… I can’t believe I’m doing this..I never do this kind of thing.” Usually I laugh hysterically inside, and respond with the heart felt, “Oh I know, don’t worry about it.” The problem is with this girl it was different. First, even using your vast knowledge, I didn’t expect to be able to get this far with this girl on the first date.

She had that intangible “it” that really attracted me to her and I actually don’t think that under normal circumstances she would have taken a guy home but…. most guys don’t have the benefit of the “David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks” either (lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and uncomfortable she could barely complete a sentence. Obviously with everything that happened I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that’s to be expected, but now I’m not sure how to handle this situation.

I’m afraid now that if I’m not REALLY careful that I’ll screw up a chance with a great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a little reassurance that this wasn’t just a one night stand, but I’m not sure if that’s the right thing to do or if it is, how to do it without coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl could be worth some effort………PLEASE HELP!!!

Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great story, and your story illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I’d like to comment on a few of them before I actually answer your question.

The first thing I’d like to comment on is this illogical progression of how you went from meeting this girl to being intimate so fast.

To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and teased her… “to the extreme”, which somehow resulted in her spending the night with you.

Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no sense at all… I mean, why would a woman who is obviously very attractive and “in demand” want to get physical with a guy that isn’t buying her things, giving her compliments, and generally kissing her ass all night long?

The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN DON’T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS IN THE FIRST PLACE!

Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures, religions, and mothers have programmed us to be “nice guys” when we’re around women we feel attracted to.

This does two things:

1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.

2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.

Again, I know it’s illogical, but attractive women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.

Part of creating this illogical and desirable response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor together in a formula I call “Cocky & Funny” (which you obviously get).

Of course, there’s a lot more to it, but the key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN’T WORKING… namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.

If you’re reading this right now, and you’re one of those guys who thinks that women are attracted to “nice guys”, then think again, and read On Being a Man
The second thing I’d like to comment on is when she said:

“Oh…I can’t believe I’m doing this…I never do this kind of thing.”

I’ve talked to a lot of guys who are VERY successful with women about this particular phenomenon, and they all say similar things.

It seems that whenever a woman is going to get “physical” quickly, they have to rationalize it “out loud” first.

Sometimes a woman will say “I’m not like this” or something similar to slow things down and try to explain away what’s happening.

Don’t let it bother you.

Of course, if a woman says, “stop” or she actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or anything else), then you need to STOP immediately. I’m not suggesting at all that you don’t respect a woman’s wishes.

But, you also need to understand that just because a woman is SAYING that “she doesn’t usually do things like this”, that it doesn’t mean she doesn’t WANT to.

The final point I’d like to comment on before answering your question, is this response that she had when you called her back. You mentioned that she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she couldn’t complete a sentence.

I have seen this exact same thing, and I have several friends who have told me stories just like this.

It seems to me that when an attractive woman who is used to being the one in control meets a guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny, unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it freaks her out.

Sometimes she literally doesn’t know what to do, and she doesn’t know how to act. Often, she will be self-conscious about the fact that she “got physical” so soon, or about some other thing… but it really comes down to the fact that she just doesn’t know how to deal with you.

This is a great place to be, and don’t let it bother you when it happens.

And now, to answer your question… of how to handle this situation.

First of all, don’t start acting TOO DIFFERENTLY.

If you start acting all nice and lovey, you’ll come across in a way that will be confusing… and it will probably make her run.

If you want this to turn into something more, then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING that happens.

If she seems nervous, just relax and make a joke about it.

With attractive women, it’s always a good idea to “lean back” and give her space.

As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as you would normally call a woman, and see her half as much… at least for the first few weeks.

GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.

And if you’re going to be “nice”, then BE VERY CAREFUL AND DON’T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!

When the average guy meets a really attractive woman that is “different” from the others… one that he wants to have a relationship with… he usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts, calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.

As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY behavior, and it usually results in the woman running away.

In other words, you must not let her nervous state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.

KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.

…and if you’re reading this right now and thinking to yourself “You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women… and how to take things to a physical level fast”, then YOU’RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself, and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves… and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn’t know what he was doing with women. Now I’m one of the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract women.

What’s the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you’d like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It’s taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out, and it’s also taken a lot of time, effort, and energy on my part to put it all down on paper and on audio and video… so that any guy can learn from the things I’ve discovered.

I’d like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn things that it took me YEARS to figure out… all from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

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I’ll talk to you again soon.